These are the underrated questions I think are most important to settle.
- Does this person share similar big picture, end-of-life, “by the time I die” goals as me?
- Will marrying this person multiply or divide, add to or subtract from my ability to impact the issues I care most deeply for?
- What is the impact of this person on my family?
- What character does this person demonstrate in the face of challenge and suffering?
- Can we talk about difficult things together?
If you hope for a truly sustainable, enjoyable marriage, marry the one that
- guns for a similar big picture end-of-life goal as you
- multiplies the impact you want to create
- helps you love your family better
- has been tested by challenge and shown resilience in suffering
- is always willing to talk with you even about the not so wonderful parts of life